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What’s your Platform?

Here is the formal invitation from our new friends at Platform. If you can attend, please do. We think this will be a great space for conversation and innovation. If you cannot attend- reach out and engage with these social change agents. I know we are glad that we did.


Kelly & Becca


In city halls, state capitols and in the chambers of Congress, officials are making decisions about young women’s rights— without the input of young women. This needs to change. You are invited to join Platform, a new generation of women, to set a political agenda for the future of our country.

A convention will be held in Washington, DC from July 11 to July 13— just months before the general election. We are using this timing to our advantage because we believe that when we come together to say, “these are our issues and if you want our vote you must protect our rights,” we will have a profound impact.Throughout the convention, delegates will hear from SHEroes, including Senator Mazie HironoCongresswoman Eleanor Holmes Norton and Feminist Majority Foundation Board Member Dee Martin, have the opportunity to learn about the issues from experts during workshops, write and debate a resolution modeled after the Declaration of Sentiments (the document that ignited the U.S. Women’s suffrage movement), and lobby Congress using that very resolution. Our workshop leaders include U.S. Department of Labor, ACLU, Generation Progress, RAINN, National Abortion Federation, AAUW, Quorum, and the Human Rights Campaign! Through these workshops we will work to highlight and address the different experiences of all who identify as women while still celebrating the bonds of sisterhood and the pursuit of progress.

This election cycle is too important for us to stay silent so let’s work together to protect our bodies, our lives, and our futures. For $150 (includes housing, metro ticket, and 2 meals) you can register now:!registration/dmmxp 


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Media Inquiries

Media Inquiries

One Student is thrilled to have members of the media reach out to us to address questions about current issues regarding sexual assault, campus climate, creating social change, #consentculture, sexual empowerment, Why Sexversations?, talking to your kids before they leave for college, how to access some of our free and fabulous tools and resources. Or to chat about a few of our favorite things. If you hang around, you will catch our vibe.


One Student is a non-profit organization that provides cutting edge programs, resources and opportunities that engage students to create social change to reduce sexual violence. In the past decade our Founders, Kelly Addington (@kellyaddington) and Becca Tieder (beccatalks) experts on sexual assault and sexual empowerment have worked with over 450 colleges and universities. Learning from students, campus leaders and officials what they need and creating it through One Student and then making it available for free to anyone who wants it.


One Student’s materials are currently being utilized in over 60 counties to help shift the culture and reduce sexual violence.


To contact us: email, ring us, at 813-784-7337 @onestudentorg #iamonestudent


One Student provides students and their allies with programs, resources and opportunities to address sexual violence.



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Our Vice President

Today our Vice President Joe Biden penned this beautiful letter. He makes me proud.

He rocks our world.

He rocks our world.

He makes me believe. He reminds me of what we have done and what we can do. But most of all I hope it brings some peace to the Survivor for whom it is written.



An Open Letter to a Courageous Young Woman

I do not know your name — but your words are forever seared on my soul. Words that should be required reading for men and women of all ages.

Words that I wish with all of my heart you never had to write.

I am in awe of your courage for speaking out — for so clearly naming the wrongs that were done to you and so passionately asserting your equal claim to human dignity.

And I am filled with furious anger — both that this happened to you and that our culture is still so broken that you were ever put in the position of defending your own worth.

It must have been wrenching — to relive what he did to you all over again. But you did it anyway, in the hope that your strength might prevent this crime from happening to someone else. Your bravery is breathtaking.

You are a warrior — with a solid steel spine.

I do not know your name — but I know that a lot of people failed you that terrible January night and in the months that followed.

Anyone at that party who saw that you were incapacitated yet looked the other way and did not offer assistance. Anyone who dismissed what happened to you as “just another crazy night.” Anyone who asked “what did you expect would happen when you drank that much?” or thought you must have brought it on yourself.

You were failed by a culture on our college campuses where one in five women is sexually assaulted — year after year after year. A culture that promotes passivity. That encourages young men and women on campuses to simply turn a blind eye.

The statistics on college sexual assault haven’t gone down in the past two decades. It’s obscene, and it’s a failure that lies at all our feet.

And you were failed by anyone who dared to question this one clear and simple truth: Sex without consent is rape. Period. It is a crime.

I do not know your name — but thanks to you, I know that heroes ride bicycles.

Those two men who saw what was happening to you — who took it upon themselves to step in — they did what they instinctually knew to be right.

They did not say “It’s none of my business.”

They did not worry about the social or safety implications of intervening, or about what their peers might think.

Those two men epitomize what it means to be a responsible bystander.

To do otherwise — to see an assault about to take place and do nothing to intervene — makes you part of the problem.

Like I tell college students all over this country — it’s on us. All of us.

We all have a responsibility to stop the scourge of violence against women once and for all.

I do not know your name — but I see your unconquerable spirit.

I see the limitless potential of an incredibly talented young woman — full of possibility. I see the shoulders on which our dreams for the future rest.

I see you.

You will never be defined by what the defendant’s father callously termed “20 minutes of action.”

His son will be.

I join your global chorus of supporters, because we can never say enough to survivors: I believe you. It is not your fault.

What you endured is never, never, never, NEVER a woman’s fault.

And while the justice system has spoken in your particular case, the nation is not satisfied.

And that is why we will continue to speak out.

We will speak to change the culture on our college campuses — a culture that continues to ask the wrong questions: What were you wearing?

Why were you there? What did you say? How much did you drink?

Instead of asking: Why did he think he had license to rape?

We will speak out against those who seek to engage in plausible deniability. Those who know that this is happening, but don’t want to get involved. Who believe that this ugly crime is “complicated.”

We will speak of you — you who remain anonymous not only to protect your identity, but because you so eloquently represent “every woman.”

We will make lighthouses of ourselves, as you did — and shine.

Your story has already changed lives.

You have helped change the culture.

You have shaken untold thousands out of the torpor and indifference towards sexual violence that allows this problem to continue.

Your words will help people you have never met and never will.

You have given them the strength they need to fight.

And so, I believe, you will save lives.

I do not know your name — but I will never forget you.

The millions who have been touched by your story will never forget you.

And if everyone who shared your letter on social media, or who had a private conversation in their own homes with their daughters and sons, draws upon the passion, the outrage, and the commitment they feel right now the next time there is a choice between intervening and walking away — then I believe you will have helped to change the world for the better.

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Words that shape us.

I may seem to be a little hypersensitive to language, but it’s with good reason. Language is important and impacts our feelings, values, trust, self-worth and so much more. I really like the pediatric dental practice we go to and believe that they do an excellent job and provide wonderful care. However, when the dental hygienist responds to my question, “how long do you anticipate the procedure will take” with: “it should be about 15 to 20 minutes if she is good, but could be 40 minutes or more if she’s not.” That gets me all fired up.

Rather than freak and let on that I’m my emotions are stirring and there is a rapid fire response ready to roll off my tongue at warp speed with a stern tone, I calmly say, “oh, ok. So if she is able to cooperate and remain somewhat calm with hands and tools in her mouth, and the piece is a good fit, then it will be about 20 minutes. But if she gets nervous or scared or if the fit is a challenge it could take a bit longer?” She looked at me very puzzled and said, “Um, yes. That’s right.” My daughter watching us the whole time and smiling. She’s used to this sort of exchange. I felt that confirming what I heard the hygienist  say in a way that reshaped her response to remove the statement about my daughter being good versus bad, was the best way to handle the situation.

According husband, I am like the language police. I’m OK with that, because I believe there is power in language and how we speak to our children and about our children shapes how they speak to others and how they feel about themselves.

If she is “good” or ” bad” (as they say) in the dentist’s chair, that does not mean that she is a good or bad person. Her reaction to a procedure is a behavior, so please, let’s talk about the behavior and response, not the person. When trained medical professionals say things like, “you are being a good girl” to my child, or any child for that matter, it makes my skin crawl. I will continue to repeat their comment whenever possible with, ” You are doing a good job.”

Yes. A conversation or email at another time will likely follow. So, maybe I will be labeled the annoying mom or parent with insane expectations. So be it. This mom who might be annoying to some…or many, is doing her very best to raise a compassionate, confident and empowered young woman. If we confuse or offend some people in the process, well, that’s ok. If we educate a few people along the way, excellent. And if they climb aboard our train of teaching from an early age about the importance of creating a #consentculture with a focus on appropriate language then ,well then, all aboard and choo choo!

PS How was your morning?


Not my (Kelly's) daughter just a stock photo for effect.

Not my (Kelly’s) daughter just a stock photo for effect.